Кто такие радужные дети?
В русскоязычной прессе вы скорее найдете заметки про то, что «радужные дети – это третье поколение особенных детей, воплотившихся на Земле, чтобы помочь нам» и прочий сектантский бред, чем нормальный текст о том, как живется тем, кто смог восстановиться после потери и произвести на свет своего ребенка.
Тем не менее есть ощущение, что поговорить о радужных детях необходимо. Ведь выкидыши и замершие беременности – довольно распространенные гинекологические явления, просто обсуждают их не так уж часто. По многим причинам – от менталитета до чувства вины.
Fertility Authority пишет, что выкидышем заканчиваются в среднем 20 процентов беременностей (часто женщины и не знают о том, что были беременны, потому что самопроизвольный аборт случается еще до задержки), а замершими оборачивается примерно один процент всех беременностей.
Чтобы поддержать семьи, которые пережили подобный опыт, в мире существует множество сообществ и объединений для родителей радужных детей. Встречаясь в семейных клубах или общаясь онлайн, они получают поддержку, делятся своими историями и учатся принимать свои ситуации. А ситуации бывают разные.
BBC как-то публиковал большой материал о родителях радужных детей, и среди героев текста была Таша Адамс, пережившая 16 выкидышей и два мертворождения прежде, чем родить своего сына Ориона. Женщины, потерявшие желанную беременность, пишут откровенные посты в блогах и дают интервью крупным журналам.
Издание Romper как-то опубликовало текст «10 вещей, которые вам не скажут мамы радужных детей, но скажу я», в котором откровенно расписаны все страхи и переживания родителей таких детей. Его автором выступила Присцилла Блоссом, мама радужного сына, родившегося у нее после потери дочери. Вот этот список.
«Боль от потери никогда не отступит, даже после рождения радужного малыша.
Вы будете думать о том, как бы все ваши дети общались друг с другом, какие отношения сложились бы между ними.
Есть вероятность, что вы разочаруетесь в половой принадлежности ребенка, которого удалось выносить. Если вы потеряли мальчика, а ждете девочку, вполне возможно, что вас это опечалит.
Вы будете смотреть на своего ребенка и представлять, а каким бы в его возрасте был тот, которого вы потеряли.
Однажды вам захочется поговорить со своим ребенком о его братике или сестричке, которых у него нет. Многие открываются своим детям, но многие продолжают держать свои чувства при себе.
Некоторые дни будут даваться труднее других. Годовщина со дня потери ребенка, его ПДР, другие памятные даты или просто сложные дни всегда будут напоминать о том, что вы пережили.
Вы всегда будете бояться потерять своих радужных детей. И будете представлять ужасные вещи, которые могут с ними приключиться.
И из-за этого вы будете их гиперопекать.
Вам захочется уберечь его от какой-либо боли. Вряд ли вам придет в голову наказывать радужного ребенка и уж тем более шлепать его.
Вот кто такие радужные дети. И мы обязательно будем продолжать о них писать.
Rainbow Baby: What It Means and Why Rainbow Babies Are Beautiful
Parents and experts explain why rainbow babies—born after miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death—are something beautiful after a scary and dark experience.
The term rainbow baby may not be familiar to people who haven’t experienced a loss. But to those of us who have, it has a very deep and even life-changing significance.
So what is a rainbow baby? It’s «a baby born after a miscarriage, stillborn, or neonatal death,» says Jennifer Kulp-Makarov, M.D., FACOG. «It’s called a rainbow baby because it’s like a rainbow after a storm: something beautiful after something scary and dark.»
She adds, «It’s an extremely emotional and devastating experience to lose a pregnancy [or baby]. To create a life or bring a baby into the world after such a loss is amazing like a miracle for these parents.»
I’m currently seven months pregnant with a rainbow baby, and indeed, I feel like I’m walking around with a miracle in my belly. There was a time when I never thought I could feel hopeful again. Just last year, we lost our beloved baby Cara at 23 weeks of pregnancy. The days, weeks, and months after she became our angel baby were the darkest of my life. But soon a dim hope flickered inside my heart, and eventually ignited a flame, that became my desire to try again, in part to honor Cara, and to find meaning in her loss.
Rainbow Babies Can Honor an Angel Baby
Moline Prak Pandiyan, a previous ambassador for March for Babies, March of Dimes Eastern North Carolina, knows this feeling well. She lost her son Niko when he was five months old due to complications related to his premature birth. «Although Niko lost his fight, his spirit lives on, and he continues to inspire many,» she explains. Not only is this mama involved in fighting prematurity, but she was also inspired to conceive a rainbow baby.
Not that she previously knew the meaning of the term «rainbow baby.» «I remember the feeling that I had when I first heard [it],» says Pandiyan. «It was perfect. I so much wanted to make sure that Niko wasn’t forgotten, and the term so eloquently acknowledges the babies who we’ve lost, while also celebrating the joy of our babies who do survive.»
Prak Pandiyan is now a proud mom of a little girl, her rainbow, who truly informs her parenting philosophy. «My husband and I always wondered what life would have been like if our son could be discharged and come home with us,» she says. «When we welcomed our rainbow baby into this world, our perspective as parents shifted. Whenever things get hard—feeding challenges, sleeping challenges, mild illnesses—we always make it a point to step back and remember that things could be so much worse.»
Parenting a Rainbow Baby May Feel Different
Mama Stephanie Sherrill Huerta, who has one daughter, is also expecting a rainbow baby, via adoption, after several miscarriages and failed adoption attempts. She too acknowledges that parenting her rainbow baby will be different, telling Parents.com, «We will love him a little differently than our daughter because we went through so much grief and pain before meeting him. He will truly be the light at the end of the tunnel, the pot of gold under the rainbow, and the rainbow after our storm.»
That same spirit has encouraged me to enjoy my current pregnancy more than before. Morning sickness and heartburn can’t take away my gratitude for the chance to carry a healthy baby.
Elizabeth Lorde-Rollins, M.D., MSc, OB-GYN at CareMount Medical says this is normal. «For parents who have experienced the loss of a child, whether that loss occurs before or after birth, the life adjustments associated with pregnancy are accompanied with an acute sense of gratitude even when they are uncomfortable,» she notes. «And although most of us have the great fortune of being wanted babies, parents tend to have a special, and in many cases incredibly sharp, sense of being blessed when they are expecting and then giving birth to a baby that follows loss.»
But Dr. Kulp-Makarov cautions, «The birth and newborn stage of a rainbow baby are different for parents who have suffered a loss. They can expect a rush of strong and complicated emotions. Parents may swing between this amazing awe at their new baby and strong fear that something may happen and they may lose this new baby too.»
Welcoming a Rainbow Baby Can Be Emotional for Parents
Guilt is a common feeling for parents who welcome a rainbow baby, adds Dr. Lorde-Rollins. «Parents can feel that being excited about the new pregnancy, or loving this new baby when he or she arrives, is somehow a betrayal of the baby they lost.» Dr. Kulp-Makarov says. «These parents need a lot of emotional support during pregnancy and birth.»
For me, support has come, in part, in the form of knowing I’m not alone. As Dr. Kulp-Makarov points out, the term «rainbow baby» is becoming more mainstream, and this has helped to increase awareness around loss and healing. «These babies are a beautiful example of how women’s bodies and spirits can heal after a pregnancy or neonatal loss,» she says.
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting. «Don’t be afraid to keep the child that you lost as part of your lives, in whatever way is special and important to you,» Prak Pandiyan says to other parents who have endured loss. She adds that creating new, beautiful traditions with your rainbow baby is also a special way to celebrate their new, miraculous life.
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I had 2 miscarriages before my current pregnancy. I’m at 21 weeks right now. We didn’t think this one would make it either when my ovary burst and I was hemorrhaging blood but baby was too young to do surgery on me. I really thought I’d be adding a third to my. you know. I’m blessed to say we have made it this far. And the way you explain that love is profoundly accurate. This pregnancy has been so intense emotionally. It’s been devastating physically on me but I couldnt wish for anything different if my rainbow shines.
I have five angel babies and two rainbow babies who are now adults. This is why my daughter-in-law and I wrote a book that explains it to young children. It is called A Rainbow Baby Story: The Rainbow After The Storm.
I’m sorry, but I really don’t like the whole concept.
I’m sorry, but I don’t like the whole concept of your opinion.
This article was special and personal to me, even though my own miscarriage was over 35 years ago. When my daughter had her own rainbow baby, she and I began to write and illustrate about this topic as a way of both processing it and reaching out to others. Our kickstarter project is titled Rainbow and Sunshine. https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1378131774/rainbow-and-sunshine
Mine will be 15 next month, and I’m still in awe that she’s here, and healthy, and very nearly as tall as me! 5 days less than a year younger than her angel brother, she is vibrant and sassy and expansive. I only recently heard the term «rainbow baby» so she was already my «rainbow teen» by then. But, from the time she was two, rainbow sprinkles were her thing, so maybe she knew before I did.
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What Is a Rainbow Baby?
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Rainbows symbolize hope and renewal, especially for parents who have lost an infant but are now expecting again. While miscarriages are fairly common, moms who have lost a baby often feel alone in their pain. The rainbow baby movement connects them through social media with other parents who understand what they’re going through.
What is a rainbow baby?
A rainbow baby is the term coined for a baby born after a miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss from natural causes. A rainbow baby arrives after a rainbow pregnancy, which is often fraught with complex emotions, including fear, relief and even guilt.
While the rainbow baby-to-be is a source of particular joy, parents never forget the baby they lost. They often mention that child — their «angel» — when announcing rainbow babies.
Rainbows have long been a symbol of light and beauty after a storm. So-called rainbow coalitions suggest diverse communities coming together to foster progress and unity.
Rainbows — expressed as words, emojis and general themes — are often found on Facebook groups, baby products, birth announcements and community boards for parents of rainbow babies. They’re a symbol for the nervous excitement parents of loss have about a healthy pregnancy, and serve as a shortcut for sharing stories and support.
A rainbow baby embodies both metaphors: hope and healing after grief and loss, and a pathway for parents seeking solace and empathy through social media, blogs and community forums.
Honoring pregnancy loss and a rainbow baby
If you’ve lost a child, experts say it’s important to honor your grief and to share your mixture of joy and fear when you get pregnant again. Studies find that grief after pregnancy loss is no less intense than that experienced after other losses, and may be felt even longer.
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Moreover, pregnancy loss — especially loss that takes place at an early stage of pregnancy — can be excruciatingly isolating. Some moms say their loss wasn’t fully unacknowledged by family and friends; others say they would have liked to have had a funeral for their deceased baby, but weren’t given the chance.
Society offers few outlets for parents to express their emotions and honor their pregnancy loss. Don’t be shy about asking your doctor for a referral to a mental health professional or counselor who can help you navigate this difficult time.
Taking care of yourself and giving yourself time to heal is crucial. Women who experience perinatal losses are at higher risk for postpartum depression, post-traumatic stress, depression, anxiety and sleeping disorders.
Don’t pressure yourself to recover alone or just «get over it.» Instead, actively seek support from your doctor and ask your partner and family to be especially patient and nurturing. Some moms say it helps to connect with others who have lost a baby in support groups or on social media.
You should also expect to feel a whole range of emotions, including fear, worry, renewed grief, guilt, joy and relief, when you get pregnant again with a rainbow baby after a loss. All those feelings are completely normal. It can help to talk to others who have had rainbow pregnancies and babies.
Real parent stories about rainbow babies
While it’s impossible to ever fully recover from the loss of a child, those who have seek and share advice and encouragement online. Here are some real mom stories about grieving angels, trying for a rainbow pregnancy and hopes for a rainbow baby:
«I am currently 19 weeks and 2 days with our rainbow [baby], after my second son was stillborn at 36 weeks July 1, 2018. Most of our family know and a few good friends. I also told my boss last week. We’ve had our anatomy scan and done genetic testing, baby is healthy. Here’s the thing, I feel everyone will be extremely happy and excited, and I want that, but I fear people forgetting our angel. Our rainbow is due five days before our angel’s first birthday. I’ve considered waiting till our rainbow arrives to announce, but then I hear the what ifs in my head. I don’t want to hide this gift, but I’m scared!» — LauraSawrie
«The very first time getting pregnant in life, I suffered an ectopic. Luckily my tube was saved. After I had two early miscarriages (talk about grief), I was like, why me? But this past October, I was blessed with my rainbow baby girl! The interesting thing is I had absolutely no problems in the pregnancy, and she’s a super happy, healthy 5-month-old.» — SunRae89
«We lost our boy at 26 weeks. It was devastating, to say the least. We still miss him every day. But God came and blessed us again just one month after. I am now 31 weeks pregnant with a very healthy, very lively baby girl!» — MaurisaLee
Pregnancy announcements for rainbow babies
There are as many ways to announce a new baby as there are parenting styles. Some go the traditional route, with a carefully penned note on cream-colored paper sent snail-mail. Others enlist the family dog to share the news on Instagram.
If you are a parent-to-be of a rainbow baby, it’s natural to be more on the cautious side. After all, you may have shared the news of the baby you lost — and then had to explain the heartbreaking reality to everyone later.
When and how you announce is always up to you. Some parents of rainbow babies prefer to hold off until they’re into their second trimester, just to keep all those emails, texts, calls and congratulatory notes at bay until the rainbow is in a safe and healthy place, while others can’t wait to share the good news right away.
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Look at that rainbow. He must be a rider — Посмотри, какие у этого типа кривые ноги. Он, наверное, наездник
Hey, rainbow, are you a cowboy? — Эй, ты, кривоногий, ты что, ковбой?
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